PTSD Confessions

More for you here, my friend

Fri, 24 Dec 2021 06:20:25 +1100

More for you here, my friend

sweetschizo: Less: “You can do anything you put your mind to.” More: “It’s okay and completely...

Fri, 24 Dec 2021 05:01:07 +1100

Less: “You can do anything you put your mind to.” More: “It’s okay and completely understandable if you’re struggling to do the things you want and need to due to your diagnosis and it isn’t your fault if some things are hard or impossible right now.”

Less: “You’re limitless.” More: “Everybody has limits and you’re not a failure if your diagnosis gives you limits that most people don’t have. Having limits and learning to accommodate them is a natural, important and healthy thing.

Less: “Change your attitude, change your life.” More: “Your diagnosis and how it impacts your life isn’t an attitude problem and getting better is much more complicated than thinking positive thoughts and that’s okay.”

Less: “Stay positive and you’ll be happy.” More: “It’s okay to struggle with negative emotions and nobody can be positive all the time. Struggling to stay positive doesn’t make you a bad or weak person.”

Less: “You have so many wonderful reasons to live.” More: “Your life is valuable and you deserve to be here even if it feels like you don’t have many reasons to live right now - cause you’ll find those reasons along the way.”

Less: “Remember that life is amazing!” More: “Your life may suck right now but that doesn’t mean it won’t be worth it in the long run.”

Less empty platitudes, more compassion.

https://etsy.me/3jlw5Tb

Fri, 24 Dec 2021 03:40:45 +1100

bad-days-are-ok:

if you have recently found someone who turned out to not be right for you, remember:

Fri, 24 Dec 2021 02:20:59 +1100

wholeheartedsuggestions:

wholeheartedsuggestions:
if you have recently found someone who turned out to not be right for you, remember:
you deserve someone who will make you happy
you deserve someone who doesn’t make you question if you’re their priority
you deserve someone who listens
you deserve someone who validates your feelings
you deserve someone who loves you just as much as you love them
you deserve someone who makes time for you
you deserve someone who gushes about you
you deserve someone who makes sure you know they enjoy spending time with you
you deserve someone who makes you laugh on your worst days
you deserve someone who makes you go to bed with a smile on your face, not tears in your eyes
you deserve someone who doesn’t make you worry you might say the wrong thing
you deserve someone who is willing to drop everything to comfort you on a really bad day
you deserve someone who pays attention to the little things you like and dislike
you deserve someone who gets you
you deserve someone who sees a future with you
you deserve someone who appreciates you
you deserve better
at the time, i wrote this having not even found that person. but now i have them and have proven myself right.

Thu, 23 Dec 2021 07:40:44 +1100

lifeafterpsychiatry:

memeuplift:
Image text: “Never quit” sounds great, but sometimes, you gotta quit. Be willing to say “this isn’t what I thought it was” or “this doesn’t appeal to me anymore.” Remember that you can quit “the thing” without quitting on yourself. Remember that persistence and fluidity can coexist.“

In case you were never allowed to be angry as a child and now you ‘just don’t get angry’…

Thu, 23 Dec 2021 06:21:36 +1100

In case you were never allowed to be angry as a child and now you ‘just don’t get angry’…
Anger can be a normal, healthy and safe emotion as long as you’re not hurting yourself or someone else.

selkiesi:a little gif I just made ♡

Thu, 23 Dec 2021 05:01:49 +1100

selkiesi:

a little gif I just made ♡

You are not hard to love, you just ran into the wrong people. There are someone out there who will…

Thu, 23 Dec 2021 03:40:36 +1100

suggestionsofkindness:

You are not hard to love, you just ran into the wrong people. There are someone out there who will love you so much, and you will feel the warmth of that love. Please don’t give up.
You would not ask someone who does not value the sky and the stars to go stargazing with you. The value of the sky is just the same, as is yours. You just need to find the stargazers. 🌸

aniseandspearmint:notfunnymistahj: Me too! Please tell me when...

Thu, 23 Dec 2021 02:20:31 +1100

aniseandspearmint:

notfunnymistahj:

Me too! Please tell me when I do a good job!

Okay, but this is kind of important. As kids get older, the amount of times they’re praised for doing something correctly, or GOOD really peters off until, by the time they’re adults, it’s seen as juvenile or immature to want to be told you’re doing a good job at something.
Mentioning this to a much older person has gotten me scoffed at, “Oh, so you want me to give you a pat on the back for/ every little thing you do/?”
Well, no, of course not. But I do like it when my efforts are /recognized/. It’s incredibly disheartening to put your all into something and have it go completely unacknowledged.

Your suffering is enough. Your pain is enough. I’m sorry you were made to feel that you had to prove…

Wed, 22 Dec 2021 18:41:51 +1100

traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors:

Your suffering is enough. Your pain is enough. I’m sorry you were made to feel that you had to prove you needed help.

strength

Wed, 22 Dec 2021 15:19:56 +1100

chuckdrawsthings:

strength

Has anyone get triggered by a certain smell? Like an aftershave or colon ? I can still smell the colon, and it has been over 40 years.

Wed, 22 Dec 2021 10:16:23 +1100

Hey anon, smell can definitely be a huge trigger, for both good and bad things, even if they happened a really long time ago! Here's an article about it that goes into more detail if you're interested.
-Winter xx

kdinjenzen:This is your friendly reminder to not bow to “Holiday Guilt”You’ll see a lot of posts...

Wed, 22 Dec 2021 09:51:00 +1100

kdinjenzen:

This is your friendly reminder to not bow to “Holiday Guilt”
You’ll see a lot of posts saying “Don’t forget to talk to/send gifts/reconnect with family! Now is the time for forgiveness and understanding!” - but you don’t have to do that, you don’t owe anyone who has done you wrong a single thing.
“The Holidays” are not a magical eraser that wipes the slate clean, it’s not a “cure all” or “Band-Aid” for abusive people to use to get forgiveness without doing the work to earn it, it’s not a time to “put our differences aside and enjoy a meal” - you have your own agency and you should not let some Crappily Worded Greeting Card Post/Tweet/Commercial/Movie “message” sway you into forgiving people (even temporarily) who don’t deserve it.
Forgiveness is a precious gift that isn’t just given to someone every 25th of December for the reason of “IT’S THE HOLIDAYS!”

Wed, 22 Dec 2021 09:50:03 +1100

mentalhealthhelpblog:

Can someone’s tone of voice and/or wording be a trigger? I feel like I might’ve overreacted when the person who emotionally and mentally abused me demanded me to do something in harsh tone. I felt like I was kid again, helpless to anything they said or did to me. I just feel as though I overreacted.

Wed, 22 Dec 2021 09:48:17 +1100

Hey anon, yes someone's tone of voice or wording could definitely be a trigger if they said something in a similar way to the person who abused you.
-Winter x

My ex girlfriend told me PTSD kills people and it’s completely fucking me over. So a reminder to all. You are a good person. None of this is your fault. And it’s okay to get better. You deserve to be happy. Let go when you are ready.

Wed, 22 Dec 2021 09:44:54 +1100

Wow that was incredibly rude of her to say something like that! I'm so sorry you had that experience anon! I hope you can believe your lovely reminder for yourself as well. All of us with PTSD deserve to happiness and to live a full and happy life.
-Winter xx

Content thieves, think up your own posts smh. We know u just take other popular posts and blatantly plagiarize them, barely change any language and add nothing useful of your own! No credit. So rude and stupid, stealing from other blogs run by mentally ill people. You aren’t helping anyone, just stealing from genuine struggling ppl who are actually trying to help others, not rack up undeserved likes/reblogs like you do!

Wed, 22 Dec 2021 09:41:38 +1100

I honestly don't know what you're talking about? I hardly make any original posts and the ones I do make I come up with by myself.

This whole message is completely offensive on so many different levels and I really don't appreciate it.

Are you okay? I’m worried about you.

Wed, 22 Dec 2021 09:39:17 +1100

Hey anon! I'm sorry to worry you - I'm okay! The last question I answered before going on break made me reflect a little bit and I've kinda been feeling like I shouldn't really be on here anymore. I feel like I don't really know a lot anymore and it's been making it difficult to come on here. I've also just been dealing with a lot - my abuser got out of prison recently and trying to cope with that has been incredibly difficult.

I guess I've decided that I still really want to be here. I love this blog and what I do, so even if it's not very helpful or doesn't reach a lot of people I still want to keep coming on. I'll keep posting things, even if they're just reblogs. And I'll keep answering questions for as long as people have them.

-Winter xx

I just want to remind everyone. Moving forward is about change. I started my moving forward today with dying my hair black and a “viking” style undercut. Also I walked out of my job and have no idea what I shall do. But it’s time to move forward.

Wed, 22 Dec 2021 09:33:17 +1100

Good for you! :)

You haven’t uploaded anything aside from reblogs from others for a while now. No asks or text posts or anything. Are you just not receiving anything?

Mon, 11 Oct 2021 15:23:20 +1100

Hey there! I am still getting some questions and confessions sent in, I’m just struggling to answer and post them right now, and the reblogs are honestly just queued stuff from when I do have the energy to come on. There’s just a lot going on in my personal life at the moment with uni, looking for work, PTSD things, and other mental health stuff. I just haven’t really had the capacity to be on here properly much, I'm sorry.

I guess as well I just haven’t been very motivated to come on here. When I started this blog in 2013 I did it because I couldn’t find any online/free resources on how to cope with trauma (that wasn’t abuse or for veterans). I wanted a place to collate all that and vent about the trauma I’d been through. Over the years though the online resources space has grown so much and there are so many places you can find help for free/online now, which is fantastic. I guess I don’t really see the place for my blog anymore as much as I used to. There are other blogs/resources out there who do an incredible job, much better than I ever could, and to (I’m assuming lol) a much bigger audience.

I’m really sorry if you’ve sent something in and I haven’t responded to it yet! I promise I’m trying hard to get to everything I’m sent.

-Winter xx