mousey!!!

look i understand your frustration with “cis women boundaries”. but we can’t just say “other people don’t get to have boundaries if it makes it harder for me to be safe” because that is a one-way ticket to authoritarianism. What we can do is make safe spaces for trans women, and choose on a case-by-case basis if they include cis women or not. Keep in mind too, not every trans woman feels safe sharing a space with cis women… and they deserve safe spaces too.

Sat, 06 Jun 2026 00:52:19 -0400

I daresay most of us don't feel safe sharing spaces with cis women, lol. systemic discrimination against marginalized women is not "boundaries" it's discrimination. if you're uncomfortable with a group of marginalized women, that's called bigotry, and it's never at any time in history been a good justification for discrimination. and no we are not going to do "separate but equal" get serious

raggedyrobin:

Anon recognizes cis women harm and traumatize us constantly, but we're the ones who are expected to conform to cis women's "boundaries" and create our own spaces.
Maybe cis women should be the ones to go pee in outhouses, gender neutral bathrooms that are never taken care of, or in the men's bathroom when those other options are completely unavailable. Maybe they should go stay in general shelters or on the street when they're homeless. They'll never be systematically and violently forced to do any of that the same way trans women and transfems are.

A boundary is like “you can’t come in my room because it’s private” or “I don’t like hugs” or “if you are too loud I will have to leave until it gets quiet again” “You can’t come in this homeless shelter because you’re a dirty tranny” is not a boundary. “You can’t come in this homeless shelter because you’re a dirty tranny” kills people.

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 23:50:29 -0400

please make sure your transfem friends don’t get excluded. please listen to their needs.

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 22:43:21 -0400

transsexual-feminism:

ashes2caches:
please make sure your transfem friends don’t get excluded. please listen to their needs.
You should do more than just listen, actually. You need to ask her. You need to go up to her and ask her about things you can do to include her. We are taught to take up as little space as possible, you need to go out of your way to account for that.

everyone be quiet. marsha with her snoopy.

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 22:42:24 -0400

quantumshade:

everyone be quiet. marsha with her snoopy.

look i understand your frustration with “cis women boundaries”. but we can’t just say “other people don’t get to have boundaries if it makes it harder for me to be safe” because that is a one-way ticket to authoritarianism. What we can do is make safe spaces for trans women, and choose on a case-by-case basis if they include cis women or not. Keep in mind too, not every trans woman feels safe sharing a space with cis women… and they deserve safe spaces too.

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 22:36:53 -0400

I really think the only reason any version of separate but equal actually works for cis women is because white, cisgender women are like the only marginalized group that the white supremacist patriarchy actually considers a core part of its fabric

the rest of us are treated as disposable trash, and I greatly doubt that any facilities the patriarchy could be strong-armed into creating just for us would be meaningfully "equal" in any way. and all this just cause you don't wanna pee within 20 feet of us at walmart

look i understand your frustration with “cis women boundaries”. but we can’t just say “other people don’t get to have boundaries if it makes it harder for me to be safe” because that is a one-way ticket to authoritarianism. What we can do is make safe spaces for trans women, and choose on a case-by-case basis if they include cis women or not. Keep in mind too, not every trans woman feels safe sharing a space with cis women… and they deserve safe spaces too.

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 22:23:43 -0400

I think it’s nuts that people will call trans women terfs and paint them as nasty aggressors towards the eternally victimized trans men when the entire TERF worldview is literally thinking trans women are nasty aggressors and trans men are victims. Do they like really not see the irony there

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 22:18:58 -0400

🎯

The thing I don’t understand about the transandrophobia stuff is how it leads into the transmisogyny. Like, trans guys do experience oppression, and they should be allowed to talk about it, but every guy I’ve seen who’s talked about it using the term “transandrophobia” has also been extremely transmisogynistic. Not always at first or intentionally, but it’s like a pipeline I think? So like, I understand that there is a correlation here. I have observed it myself. But I don’t get it? What is it about using that word to describe their experiences that leads them to consistently become so transmisogynistic? And they talk a lot about wanting trans solidarity, but their actions don’t really reflect that? But I don’t understand how it happens. It’s like [a trans guy experiences oppression] -> [he wants to talk about it] -> [he starts talking about transandrophobia] -> [SOMETHING?????] -> [he becomes violently transmisogynistic]. And it’s like ok, the oppression IS real, talking about it IS good, but then we get to that word, and that’s where things start to go bad, but I don’t know how or why. I don’t know what happens in the “SOMETHING?????” step.

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 20:56:50 -0400

my guess is that part of it is they resent us for "appropriating" the experience of misogyny that they believe is inherent to agab. they want to be the ultimate authorities on misogyny, and they hate the idea that we have authority on discussing our own experiences of misogyny, and I think they especially resent the idea that it affects us more than it does them in many areas of life. I cannot forget how mad they got that I pointed out the wage gap between them and us

people in general are very condescending about trans women's experiences with misogyny, acting like we're appropriating what ~real~ women go through. and frankly, a lot of transandrobros seem to think of themselves as more of women than trans women in everything but name. they just say "afab" instead of "woman"

thestarsaretrans:

prollyrpolly:
There's a reason why I prefer to call it transemasculation. Transandrophobia as a term doesn't even cover the 'why' behind the oppression of transmascs, which leads transmascs who start using the term to end up thinking that their oppression is due to some bullshit about misogyny being inherent to agab, like you said. In reality, it's due to transphobes trying to trying to remove their maleness and return them to being "vulnerable women" in some way. Transandrobros are literally perpetuating their own oppression by believing what they believe.
Okay, fuck, that's actually a really good term for the phenomena. Because that's exactly what patriarchy wants out of transmascs: to forcibly and coercively re-gender them. Because so much of patriarchy is aimed at sidelining everyone with a uterus into a reproductive resource, an aim thinly legitimized by ideas about the feminine, female, woman, girl, et cetera. That's not a program that transmasculinity fits into, resulting in violence of all kinds against transmascs to buy conformity.
Contrast this with the de-gendering that patriarchy inflicts on transfems, who are denied any legitimacy or humanity as punishment for, A, actively identifying with womanhood, a category that must always remain undesirable, and B, "betraying" manhood, a category that must always remain unbreakable and misogynistic. A failure to be a misogynist man makes us traitors. Our uselessness to the reproductive regime denies us even the faint protections of womanhood. And because we are denied a category, a humanity, we are denied language and knowledge and frameworks with which to speak of and understand our own oppression; epistimicide.
And these are two very different phenomena, so for a long time it's made very little sense to me to use blanket "transphobia" as a term; it feels like it ultimately plays into that force of epistimicide, generalizing and vaguely deferring any specific discussion of what transfemininity means and how it's oppressed, and at the same time not adequately attacking the roots of oppression against trans men. I'll be borrowing "transemasculation" as a way to talk about these things. Thank you for the addition to my lexicon.

No go get your own spaces

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 19:20:52 -0400

I tried but they said I wasn't allowed to just haul an outhouse outside my local grocery store

The thing I don’t understand about the transandrophobia stuff is how it leads into the transmisogyny. Like, trans guys do experience oppression, and they should be allowed to talk about it, but every guy I’ve seen who’s talked about it using the term “transandrophobia” has also been extremely transmisogynistic. Not always at first or intentionally, but it’s like a pipeline I think? So like, I understand that there is a correlation here. I have observed it myself. But I don’t get it? What is it about using that word to describe their experiences that leads them to consistently become so transmisogynistic? And they talk a lot about wanting trans solidarity, but their actions don’t really reflect that? But I don’t understand how it happens. It’s like [a trans guy experiences oppression] -> [he wants to talk about it] -> [he starts talking about transandrophobia] -> [SOMETHING?????] -> [he becomes violently transmisogynistic]. And it’s like ok, the oppression IS real, talking about it IS good, but then we get to that word, and that’s where things start to go bad, but I don’t know how or why. I don’t know what happens in the “SOMETHING?????” step.

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 18:39:21 -0400

prollyrpolly:

There's a reason why I prefer to call it transemasculation. Transandrophobia as a term doesn't even cover the 'why' behind the oppression of transmascs, which leads transmascs who start using the term to end up thinking that their oppression is due to some bullshit about misogyny being inherent to agab, like you said. In reality, it's due to transphobes trying to trying to remove their maleness and return them to being "vulnerable women" in some way. Transandrobros are literally perpetuating their own oppression by believing what they believe.

gender has been severely shrunken down into the domain of language, and I think it’s been a serious…

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 17:36:25 -0400

probskay:

mousidy:
gender has been severely shrunken down into the domain of language, and I think it’s been a serious mistake to prioritize language over all other facets of what gender is and can be
women can have penises and men can have vaginas, and it’s great that we understand that, but we’ve done little in the way of challenging what these body parts mean, what types of people they’re attached to, what those people’s personalities are like, how dangerous or not dangerous they are, how they think and behave
we may have a little more wiggle room to label ourselves and our bodies now, but in many other ways we are right back where we started, with “amab” and “afab” swapped in for “man” and “woman.” saying “women can have penises too!” is really not very progressive at all if you still think her penis makes her dangerous, if you still think it determines her personality and behavior and thoughts
It’s a difficult and awful fucking fight, where we need language in order to combat negative ideas and describe our realities on our own terms, but the other side of the coin is people learning how to use the language we try to pioneer to describe our experiences as weapons against us. It’s why AMAB and AFAB essentially became a new “man” and “woman,” as liberals found a more acceptable way to say that people were trapped in their assigned sex at birth.
And when the language can’t be twisted to support current power structures, it gets attacked and defanged instead. Hence why TME and TMA gets so intensely smeared as ‘crafting a new binary’ and 'taking agency away from people’s ability to self-determine’ (gee that sounds familiar, i can’t fathom a group of people who’s ability to self-determine is routinely and aggressively taken away from them).
Gender needs to be so much more than language, There’s a qualia to it that every single person has and experiences that we just cannot describe. The vast majority of people who attempt to determine what our language means for us do not have these good intentions in mind, and their surface level exploration of the language that has been forced upon them, in turn, is used to continue to uphold their own power and how they benefit from it.
The language has the potential to challenge ideas, but for most they simply take the language in and use it to reinforce the things they already believe.

I’ve seen people vehemently argue that the existence of these spaces, even when they are literally…

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 17:31:31 -0400

mousidy:

mousidy:
a difference I’ve noticed between the way trans men and trans women talk on here is that trans men use the term “detransition” for everything from actually fully detransitioning to like “girlmoding,” or their counterpart of what we would call “boymoding”
it took me a while to realize this is how they use the word, but it explains the duality of “well why don’t you just boymode to get male privilege / are you saying it’s a privilege that I can DETRANSITION to access afab only* spaces????”
*nevermind that it says “afab” in the name, not “woman”…?
slightly tangential but this is such an annoying aspect of any discussion about trans women specifically being excluded from a space, especially those labeled “afab only,” cause someone will always chime in to say that these spaces don’t allow trans men in practice either. and like, yeah, sure, maybe some of these spaces are like that, I’m sure you’re right on that, but quite a lot of them aren’t! a good chunk of them are run by trans men themselves! 100% of them, though, by definition, exclude trans women

I’ve seen people vehemently argue that the existence of these spaces, even when they are literally housing, doesn’t privilege trans men over trans women at all, because they unilaterally HAVE to detransition to access them, and that having that option isn’t better than having no choice besides homelessness. like, they need to exaggerate how universally hostile these spaces are to trans men because otherwise they’d have to concede they have a privilege over trans women

slightly tangential but this is such an annoying aspect of any discussion about trans women…

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 17:27:10 -0400

mousidy:

a difference I’ve noticed between the way trans men and trans women talk on here is that trans men use the term “detransition” for everything from actually fully detransitioning to like “girlmoding,” or their counterpart of what we would call “boymoding”
it took me a while to realize this is how they use the word, but it explains the duality of “well why don’t you just boymode to get male privilege / are you saying it’s a privilege that I can DETRANSITION to access afab only* spaces????”
*nevermind that it says “afab” in the name, not “woman”…?

slightly tangential but this is such an annoying aspect of any discussion about trans women specifically being excluded from a space, especially those labeled “afab only,” cause someone will always chime in to say that these spaces don’t allow trans men in practice either. and like, yeah, sure, maybe some of these spaces are like that, I’m sure you’re right on that, but quite a lot of them aren’t! a good chunk of them are run by trans men themselves! 100% of them, though, by definition, exclude trans women

a difference I’ve noticed between the way trans men and trans women talk on here is that trans men…

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 17:23:14 -0400

a difference I’ve noticed between the way trans men and trans women talk on here is that trans men use the term “detransition” for everything from actually fully detransitioning to like “girlmoding,” or their counterpart of what we would call “boymoding”

it took me a while to realize this is how they use the word, but it explains the duality of “well why don’t you just boymode to get male privilege / are you saying it’s a privilege that I can DETRANSITION to access afab only* spaces????”

*nevermind that it says “afab” in the name, not “woman”…?

why are you always bitching about cis women having boundaries and not cis men who are the ones who are statistically far more likely to murder you? god forbid women don’t spend all their emotional labor on centering you 24/7. go after the transphobic politicians or something, those are the actual fascists who want you dead.

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 17:13:05 -0400

those "boundaries" get us murdered lol. trans women who can't access women's shelters or other forms of housing because of cis women's "boundaries" are left on the streets to be assaulted and murdered

if you want trans women out of women's spaces, and the rationale for those spaces existing is to protect from violence, then you are saying that trans women don't deserve protection from the same violence despite being at an even higher risk of it than you

sailatina3:

mousidy:
mousidy:
terfs have gotten crazy good at framing discrimination through the language of consent. systemic discrimination is not "boundaries"
the emotional labor of being asked not to discriminate against one of the most vulnerable groups of women
Why do you keep complaining about white women having boundaries :/? Leave white spaces alone :(

yay-bunnies-zone: anomalouspancakey: yay-bunnies-zone: anomalouspancakey:yay-bunnies-zone: anomal...

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 16:58:50 -0400

yay-bunnies-zone:

anomalouspancakey:

yay-bunnies-zone:

anomalouspancakey:
yay-bunnies-zone:

anomalouspancakey:

yay-bunnies-zone:

anomalouspancakey:
computerworm:

brittanyyderpp:

tarbor:

Brown eyes are so iconic and beautiful

Green eyes are even more iconic and beautiful.

If i met a white person irl I’d beat the shit out of them and mug them just because of this post. Because of you. Maybe even kill them. Because of you. You had to say this and now some random cracker bitch is gonna die. Are you happy? Was it worth it?

Blue eyes are very iconic and beautiful and if you want to kill someone because of their skin colour don’t pretend you aren’t racist and a loser. Especially if its over something someone unrelated said.

every day i cave a blue eyed cracker’s head in with a lead pipe

And every day i plow your great grandfather’s corpse in 15 different positions 😘

raping a slave’s corpse is a classic cracker move

Bold of you to assume i have skin

the white mind is okay with being accused of being a slaver-necrophiliac-rapist but takes issue the idea of being referred to as having a race.

Or just loves making strangers piss mad on the internet over words that hold as much meaning as the graffiti in a bathroom stall saying “call me for a fun time”
There are more worthwhile things to be pissed at in life then someone you’ll never meet who doesn’t matter to your life or your loved ones. Especially when actual evil exists and currently boasts about Beautiful Clean Coal after bungling and bribing his way into relevance

white yanks will justify their racism by alluding to their stupid fucking leader nobody cares about

If you’ve ever gained something from my writing, or you enjoy my games, I’ve set up a ko-fi!

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 16:49:01 -0400

mousidy:

If you’ve ever gained something from my writing, or you enjoy my games, I’ve set up a ko-fi!

it helps me pay for:
- bottom surgery
- laser hair removal
- college

it also gives me more time to devote to:
- my writing
- Transfem Voices Project
- development of my game, Enter the Wyrm

thank you 🫶

rodserlingofficial:fuck-yeah-feminist: rooks-and-ravens: wywy3k: darkersolstice: slightlykylie: p...

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 16:42:22 -0400

rodserlingofficial:

fuck-yeah-feminist:

rooks-and-ravens:

wywy3k:

darkersolstice:

slightlykylie:

peppylilspitfuck:

castformi:

dystopia au where we are all assigned one of two chosen genders at birth

Thanks to ultrasounds, the genders can be assigned before birth. The people are so excited to conform they throw “Gender reveal parties” to make sure their offspring exist in a strict binary since before they can even form thoughts.

Children are color-coded according to their binary assignment.

One of the genders is seen as inherently inferior.

This all sounds really effing creepy when you put it that way

#BECAUSE IT IS

And if you deviate from the assigned gender you can be disowned by your family, fired from your job, and beaten by authorities.

writing a movie about a violent man in a dress who kills women out of a desire to become one and…

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 16:17:06 -0400

lunaticchimaera:

emrakulsstrongestkitty:
mars-hollow:
mars-hollow:
writing a movie about a violent man in a dress who kills women out of a desire to become one and then insisting over and over that it can’t be transphobic (despite it’s cultural influence to the contrary) because he isn’t a real tranny is. well it’s beyond parody isn’t it.
reallyyy not a fan of the habit people have of deflecting guilt for making abhorrent and obvious caricatures of trans women in media by insisting that it was actually super progressive because he wasn’t a real transsexual!! you see the same shit with rhps. just a complete failure to take some accountability and say “yeah that was insensitive we shouldn’t have depicted a real group of people that way and it has brought them material harm as a result.”
It’s so frustrating when people pull the “but he isn’t a trans woman,” like yes, the transmisogynistic caricature will not be called a woman by the source material, please consider why that is
“The Hateful Image of You is a community building thing for us though.” “We felt so safe in The Hateful Image of You it let us explore ourselves.” “The Hateful Image of You inspired women to join imperialist government organizations.” “Honestly I dont even care how you feel about The Hateful Image of You it doesn’t matter that nobody acknowledges the affect it has on You.” “I have personally helped facilitate dozens of productions of The Hateful Image of You its not amazing its just a movie.”
Silence of the Lambs, Ace Ventura, RHPS, Sleepaway Camp, Longlegs, Psycho, the list goes on and on and on and The Hateful Image of You lives on in the hearts of everyone around us and TME people expect us to just, not care? Is it so hard to empathize with a trans woman for one minute that they can’t even conceive of having The Hateful Image of You depicting yourself in a warped portrait with blood smeared on it and how it makes us feel? Especially that its a beloved community gathering thing to take part in The Hateful Image of You? That The Hateful Image of You unites everyone else in enjoying it? That the sharing of it perpetuates its renewal over and over again?
Nah, I'mma be a loud pissed off tranny about it. The least I can do to fight what kills so many of us before we can even be ourselves is shit on every one of these shitty fucking things yall make. Fuckin Hell.

The thing I don’t understand about the transandrophobia stuff is how it leads into the transmisogyny. Like, trans guys do experience oppression, and they should be allowed to talk about it, but every guy I’ve seen who’s talked about it using the term “transandrophobia” has also been extremely transmisogynistic. Not always at first or intentionally, but it’s like a pipeline I think? So like, I understand that there is a correlation here. I have observed it myself. But I don’t get it? What is it about using that word to describe their experiences that leads them to consistently become so transmisogynistic? And they talk a lot about wanting trans solidarity, but their actions don’t really reflect that? But I don’t understand how it happens. It’s like [a trans guy experiences oppression] -> [he wants to talk about it] -> [he starts talking about transandrophobia] -> [SOMETHING?????] -> [he becomes violently transmisogynistic]. And it’s like ok, the oppression IS real, talking about it IS good, but then we get to that word, and that’s where things start to go bad, but I don’t know how or why. I don’t know what happens in the “SOMETHING?????” step.

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 16:10:45 -0400

tangled-vine-girl:

Another part of it is that no part of the transmasculine transition requires one to unpack the transmisogyny in their worldview and self-understanding. (For the record, anyone, TME or TMA, can transition without unpacking their bigotry; just look at the prevalence of racism and antiblackness across all trans spaces.) With regards to transandrobros, they were able to transition without ever having to unpack their transmisogyny, and now engage in the behaviors OP has described. They simply never stopped hating trans women to begin with.

very good point -- not even trans women ourselves don't hate ourselves for being trans women. trans men aren't special