irt the "are you a boy or a girl" as a kid thing, never really got the chance for either because i understood for as long as i can remember that i wasnt allowed to even think of straying an inch outside of being a normal masculine boy and my entire life had my hair forcibly buzzed. lots of other stuff too so if theres a third category of "shoved really hard into the closet and it was barricaded shut from the outside", i think a lot of us would fit in that one.
Writing this down and also wishing you love
A transfeminist transmasc analysis essay is forming in me and I feel like it has Good Ideas but we will see if it comes to light or is gibberish. Also drawing plush tf porn
I wrote for like 4 or 5 hours today but I'm unsure when it will actually be comprehensible. Also drew furries of course
guys is this a bro onto nothing moment or do you get what im saying. the hubris of proposing a new term for a thing is not lost on me also FIRST DRAFT FIRST DRAFT ILL FIX IT UP
thank you for telling me i am cooking folks im on the grind
This Pride, make sure every trans woman that you follow, are mutuals with, goon over, or consume their work in general, has a roof over their head, their bills paid, and food in their kitchens.
You wanna call yourselves allies? This is the work. Do it.
And yes, I'm putting my links on here because I still have to get around 1800 in for rent and bills.
Donations: http://paypal.me/tormentedartifacts
And yes, if you're transfem of any kind, you're welcome to add your own links on here when reblogging.
paypal.me/miscling gonna be posting later today but it usually posts a weekly £100 fundraiser to buy food with
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primarily saving up for much-needed dental work being partly funded by my low retail paycheck, on top of keeping up with food costs, my phone bill, my dog's food/health, and my car's upkeep (my lifeline for work that's a 2006 model; i.e. very old and well over 100k miles, and also likes to make sudden noises)
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seems like tumblr finally realized the bad optics of not having the trans colors represented anywhere in their little performative pride like animation.
anyways transfems are still being banned en masse from this website for “any reason or no reason at all” and having their accounts taken down again and again when they attempt to remake. this includes accounts that had originally been around for over a decade, after they did nothing but get a bit too loud about being transfem. don’t shut up about it.
a lot of my disillusionment with the trans "community" comes down to the fact that too many of you take "gender is different from sex" and go "ah ok, so instead of saying women are fragile and men are strong, I should say afabs are fragile and amabs are strong. to be Inclusive"
then you just treat gender like a surface level aesthetic draped over what someone "actually" is. really is indistinguishable from terf rhetoric
you all need to unpack your bioessentialism, but we also need a better theory of gender than "it's just dressup." I will pick my words carefully here, but the word "gender" itself refers to so many different phenomena that have been lumped together, and we need to un-lump them
in a feminist context, "gender" has historically referred to externally imposed categorization and the internalization and performance of said categories. in a paper I wrote on this subject, I called this sense of the word "extrinsic gender"
"intrinsic gender," on the other hand, is what I used to refer to the sense of the word "gender" that a lot of trans people are talking about when they discuss social gender dysphoria and euphoria. it's the internal sense of category that's resistant to external impositions
but then we also use the word "gender" to refer to subconscious sex, which is the term Julia Serano coins in Whipping Girl to name the phenomenon we're talking about when we talk about bodily dysphoria. it is the "gender" being "affirmed" by gender affirming healthcare like HRT and bottom surgery
so, "gender" is: a social classing system, a performance, and at least two internal phenomena as well. and I really don't know if it's doing us a service to conflate all of these things!
a lot of people lately seem to be going heavy on the "performance" use of the word, ignoring (intentionally or otherwise) social classing, intrinsic gender, and subconscious sex. this seems to have led to a lot of "progressive" people treating trans women like men "amabs" who wear womanhood as a costume, and nobody understands why that's wrong because they also think gender is just a performance
And I think its relevant that people always misunderstand Judith Butler's intent with casting gender as "performative". They meant it in the philosophical sense, a social concept that can only exist through the actions of a social agent. You "perform gender" the same way you "perform tasks". Gender doesn't just exist, it must be created through actions. Society incentives certain actions to be performed in order to construct the gender binary, and if you do not perform those actions in the correct combination it disrupts the binary cohesion of gender as a social construct. But the gender binary as a social construct that can be dismantled doesn't naturally disprove subconcious sex.
Most people instead have a moralizing definition of it as a performance in the sense of an actor or a liar, something that isn't real because its done to convince someone of something completely false. This ends up rewarding people who treat gender as meaningless and silly like cis people who "dont care" about gender, or GNC TME celebrities and drag performers, or gender abolitionist transphobes, and punishes anyone who has an unacceptable investment in their subconcious sex and the way they are treated by others. Aka trans people. And of course trans women are opened to hyper-scrutiny in this framing since womanhood is treated as the most "performative" gender.
cool. another black child died in a hate crime
apparently the murder happened in 2023 after doing some research but the murderer has been found not guilty.
black children get murdered and become victims of hate crimes every fucking day. this is ridiculous
im posting this here despite the website being extremely white centered, I want people to understand how in this country it's basically ok to murder and victimize black people, especially women and children in the name of "self defense" and white America will reward you for your antiblackness.
